I had a walk with a friend the other day, and as often happens when two women get together, we talked about what’s going on in our lives. Her mother, now in her final years, has been feeling reflective. One thing she wishes she could tell her younger self is to not worry so much. Now, we all logically know that worrying doesn’t change anything, right? My own mum used to say the same thing. But is that really true?
Our subconscious mind might have a different take. Many of us were raised by mothers who, during their younger years, hadn’t yet realized that all that time and energy spent worrying was a waste. Plus, my mum has a Virgo Moon, which means she operates emotionally like a Virgo Sun sign. If you haven’t had a chance to look at my Lunar Trust guide, click here .
Virgos often get labeled as perfectionists, analyzing perhaps a little too much for some people. Worry and organization are key traits of this earth sign. However, there’s a purpose behind their furrowed brows—they want to serve and find purpose in helping. It’s not mindless worry, but it can be over the top and not change much. As Ben Franklin said, “Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.”
This got me thinking. I was taught at my mum’s knee, with her Virgo mind, to worry. My grandparents were both Virgos and exuded Virgo energy. It’s been a large part of my mindset.
You see, worry is taught to most of us as a strategy. If I worry about the future, I am less likely to make a mistake.
This comes into play with love and romance too. I’ve heard clients and friends worry about getting involved too much or getting their hopes up about this guy or girl they are dating. The worry comes up to side beside them like a Virgo parent warning their child “aren’t you worried about that?”
I know this so very intimately myself. Not only was I surrounded by the excellent Virgo worriers, I also have my south node in Virgo so it’s a karmic behaviour that feels natural and easy.
But does it serve us? Worry is presented as a helpful strategy to stay safe but does it save us from hard things like disappointment and heartbreak? Maybe. Or maybe it prevents us from having a full human experience with both joy and heartbreak.
My work as a Core Belief Practitioner teaches me that worry is not a natural behaviour we are born with; it is learned from family, mostly parents. We think, feel and take action based on beliefs. Change your beliefs, change your reality. Simply, if you have a belief, it’s not written in stone; it can be changed with work.
I’ll leave this question for you because it might be helpful as a first step to shift this unhelpful behaviour: What is the benefit of worrying to you?
Write it all down and be honest without criticizing yourself. See what your mind within believes.
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