Have you ever felt like you are having the same argument with your spouse over and over again? Perhaps you have read books, gone for counseling, but are still fighting over the same thing and are frustrated with the lack of progress?
I see this a lot in new clients. They approach me because they have heard that I can move people beyond their current situation and help people have healthy relationships through Core Belief Engineering (CBE). Core Belief Engineering therapy looks at not only how a couple relates to each other, but also at how each individual reacts within their relationship.
How does this work? Core Belief Engineering Therapists believe the mind is made up of many different parts – these parts dictate how we react within a given situation, including how we react within a relationship. For example, a woman has a “wife part” – this wife part would react when that woman is talking to her husband (but not when she is talking to say, a colleague). The problem within a part starts when there are beliefs surrounding what a woman believes her wife part to be and those beliefs could be interfering with her ability to have a healthy relationship.
A Core Belief Engineering Practitioner looks at an individual’s parts on a conscious level to see what beliefs that person has developed and what patterns have developed because of those beliefs. Using this knowledge, the Core Belief Engineering Practitioner then moves the individual into the relationship that they would like to have.
The CBE approach works very well. I am proof – I had issues with my own “wife parts”. I was unable to deal with conflict in a fair way. Through CBE I came to understand that I grew up with having to defend myself and I thought that was how you interacted with people you loved, but this was not the case with my husband. But I worked on these beliefs, matured these beliefs, and assigned myself new beliefs. This work enabled me to work on better communication and therefore have a healthy relationship with my husband.
If this sounds familiar and you would like to talk about it with me, book a free consultation, or to learn more about Core Belief Engineering, sign up for my email newsletter, visit my Facebook page, or tweet me. I would love to see how I could help you break through any limiting beliefs that could be stopping you from having a healthy relationship.