I spend a lot of time working with couples and individuals looking to discuss their relationships. Lately many of my clients have been men, most of who are looking to discuss how to make their relationships better. One piece of advice I always give to them is to ask questions! Asking questions and then asking follow up questions is my top tool when it comes to better communication.
Asking questions avoids the problem of making wrong assumptions. Instead of someone assuming a person is feeling angry or sad about something they should instead ask them! Men and women often make the assumption that they know how someone is feeling based on their actions and most of the time, they’re wrong.
This even happens in my own marriage, but instead of assuming we now work together to ask questions to investigate the source of the feelings and avoid any assumptions. I share how we do that in this week’s video ->
By asking questions we can better connect with one another. Asking questions is a skill that can be applied to any relationship in your life, including with clients, family and friends. It’s the best way to avoid hurt feelings that can arise from incorrect assumptions.