Are you looking to work on your relationship with your spouse or significant other, but your partner is not receptive to the idea? Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon for a spouse or significant other to disagree about needing help with a relationship.
Often the spouse who is resistant to see someone would rather read books or work on the relationships themselves. Instead of getting upset, which doesn’t help matters, ask them what they think will happen if they do talk to someone. Ask them what they are afraid of. Suggest that they write down the pros and cons of speaking to someone about the relationship, including what their priorities are for the relationship itself.
Writing a pros and cons list is a great place to start for both you and your spouse. If a spouse is still resistant then you need to contact someone yourself and talk to someone. Even if you think the problem lies with your spouse, you still need to talk to someone. Talking to a professional will help you determine your role in the breakdown of your relationship and determine any blind spots that may be affecting your relationship.
If there is something within you that is contributing to the breakdown of a relationship or allowing a bad relationship to continue then you need to talk to someone or the situation will only get worse. You cannot sweep relationship problems under a rug – they will only get bigger and the problems get worse.
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