Last week I spoke about how our big beliefs are formed in our childhood and how they become a part of our identity. If you didn’t see that video, you can click here to read about it.
As a Core Belief Engineering Practitioner I work with people in terms of their relationships, but not just with a spouse or significant other – relationships with friends, family and money. Today, however, I am focusing on how our childhood beliefs affect our present relationships.
As children, we gather our information and form our relationships based on the relationship of our parents or primary caregivers. How those adults react to each other and various situations, and how we feel when we are with them are the basis for how we are going to act in our own adult relationships.
We adapt our behaviours to reflect the behaviour of one or both of our parents i.e., dad feels the most like me or mom has more power so I am going to act like mom. Often I work with people who believe conflict is bad and they pick this belief up from one or both of their parents. If they see conflict as a child they develop a part of themselves that avoids conflict, which in turn makes them avoid talking to their spouses about how they really feel in certain situations; and that can cause problems in the relationship. These are the beliefs I help people work through so that they can work toward having healthy relationships.
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Stay tuned! Next time I will be talking about our relationships with money and how we spend and save money. Talk to you then!