Have you ever had problems with your significant other surrounding money? My guess is that you have – even I have. It is very common for couples to have disagreements surrounding money. For example, my husband has come to the realization, through trial and error, that I am the best person to do the grocery shopping because I believe in coupons and price matching where as he believes you should just pick up what you need and be done.
On a day-to-day basis we all have ideas on where money should be allocated, spent and saved. What is interesting about money beliefs is that they are, for the most part, inherited from our childhood. For example, my mom believed taking a taxi is a waste of money and therefore, I do too. My husband, whose father was an immigrant, came to Canada and had limited money, so my husband’s money beliefs come from that life experience.
Another area of money contention is around recreational or sporting events. Many men enjoy playing sports, such as hockey and after that they enjoy having drinks with their team mates. Often times I hear the spouse of the person who plays hockey complain that they believe that money should be allocated elsewhere.
Whether we want to admit it or not, sometimes our money beliefs are outdated. Sometimes it is because one or both of your parents were controlling about money i.e., there was tension surrounding a goal one of them set of paying off the mortgage in five years, which meant not spending money elsewhere in life because they had to pay off the mortgage. Money beliefs or money wounds from our childhood can form our reality even though they no longer serve a purpose.
What are your money beliefs? Do you fight with your honey about money? I invite you to work through the money exercise available on my website to see if money is a source of contention in your relationship. The money exercise is designed to help you find out how you can look at your beliefs and merge them to see past any outdated beliefs. Once you have answered the questions, head over to my Facebook page and share your findings about your relationship with money.