Core Belief Engineering

 Are you wrestling with the following:

 ☞ You are waking up at 2 am and worrying about business? 

☞ Thoughts are rolling back and forth like a seesaw? 

☞ No matter how tired you are, your mind won’t settle down!

 😱 Your meditation practice is being blown to smithereens. 

I know it well. My clients have struggled with this and emailed me to tell me they needed help. They are frustrated and tired and feel like there’s something wrong with them. There’s not. This is really common especially with the amount of stress we have experienced in the last two years with our businesses and personal life. 

Years ago I developed what you might call a mindset ‘hack’ for settling your mind and emotions when this early morning attack happens.  

Click on the short video above, and I will teach you to understand what’s happening to wake you up and how you can quickly settle down your mind and body to get the 😴 💤 you want. It works with my clients and it actually has a purpose as I explain in the video.

  PS. I can’t help with your spouse or partner’s snoring. I sleep with two snorers- My husband Kevin and my Beagle, Maisie! Get earplugs. The bottom line this hack helps but the most effective mindset work needs 1:1 assistance. You can’t DIY your mindset. That’s my specialty. I help women rewire their minds for greater success and self-belief.  

To learn more about my life-changing LIMITLESS program, click here to have a no-obligation chat! Let’s make this your most successful year yet, both financially and emotionally. 

megan@meganoneill.ca 

Fear of risk is one of the mindset areas I have worked on so much myself and with clients. We know intellectually that we want to uplevel and become a positive influence, but our fear of risk keeps us stuck. One foot on the accelerator and one foot on the brank. This strategy ends up making you feel like you are stuck.

 Understand two things: 

First, women have been hardwired to fear for our safety, and our conditioning has reinforced this constantly growing up. “Don’t climb too high on the playground” or “you can’t walk home alone at night.” A consistent stream tells us that danger is all around, so stay safe and don’t take risks. This strategy becomes particularly self-sabotaging when women begin their own businesses or decide to expand and make more money. To grow, however, you need to invest money and time, and the fear of risk prevents this.  

Secondly, It’s not a money mindset block per se; it’s actually the fear that we can’t do it. We don’t have what it takes to scale and build. So we project images of doom and scarcity of not having enough money. We believe we will fail and, therefore, will be unsafe.  

Can we change this fear?

 Yes, we can change it, but we have to recognize what is holding us back. Awareness is the first step to change. The fear of risk is an old belief system from millenniums of being told women are weaker and in danger. We can rewire this block but first realize that we have always survived and thrived and figured out how to prosper even if the history books don’t highlight this. Women always built and ran businesses and organizations but used their male relatives as a ‘front.’ We have the brains to figure out what we don’t know already.  

You also must ‘do.’ Taking action and getting out of your comfort zone is the key to success. You learn as you do and reinforce that you have the ability and skills to grow. Think of all the times you didn’t know what to do but learned on your feet. This is true in business too. If you don’t know, you can also get help! 

I just interviewed Rebecca Hamilton on my podcast; a millionairess baker boss who has no formal education started her business in the basement with only a $5000 grant and was not brought up to believe she has what it takes to be a success. But, within a few short years of hard work and tons of personal development work and clearly defined goals, Rebecca has many bakery locations and big bucks in the bank. She’s living her dream. You can live yours too. 

 Set your goals

Work smartly

Do your mindset work 

” I have the belief everything always works out for me. “

Allison Hardy, my last guest on my podcast Belief Alchemy with Megan O’Neill, revealed this belief to me during our interview, and I thought it was beautiful and needed to be shared. If you missed the episode, click here

I work with clients to discover deep subconscious beliefs, and I have observed that almost universally, people are not taught this powerful belief. The belief is that it is good and safe and perhaps rewarding when you take risks or do something different. The belief that you can trust. Trust God or the Universe or yourself.

Instead, we are taught at our parent’s knees to believe that we are in danger and must be on alert for the other shoe to drop. Our ancestors communicated through the ages that worry and fear will keep you safe instead of confidence and calmness. They thought a negative belief that if you had faith or trust that things would work out or are even good, made you vulnerable or a fool.

Humans are not fools naturally or born distrustful and fearful. I know from my deep core beliefs work with clients that we are born with a treasure trove of deep self-trust and unshakeable confidence that is deeper than fear. We absorb fear from the outside world and take on the feeling to believe it’s our own.  

What if we choose to believe that everything will work out for us in business or in our life?

How would that change how you show up in your business, interact in the world or take intentional action?

Just imagine you believe that everything will work out…

Write down what comes to you as you imagine. It’s your mindset roadmap.

Have you heard yourself utter sentences that sound similar to something your parents might say? What about “money doesn’t’ grow on trees” or “you have to work hard for your money?”  Don’t worry, you aren’t turning into your parents but you are likely echoing their money beliefs. These same money beliefs create your money mindset and can affect the feelings and decisions you make toward your business. 

Money mindset represents a system of beliefs in the area of money. It’s how you feel and respond to money. You have many different systems of mindset. For example: you have a relationship mindset, a parenting mindset and even a friendship mindset. All of these mindsets reflect the beliefs you have regarding each subject. If you want to understand how your mindset works, consider the following sentence. “My philosophy around money is …” The completed sentence will reveal a plethora of beliefs. Some beliefs are healthy, and some, not so much. 

Finding the pattern

For many years, I struggled with my own money mindset because I grew up with an entrepreneurial father whose business caused a lot of tension between my parents. That led me to develop the belief that money was something stressful and unpredictable. The long-term pattern I saw as a result of my money beliefs was that I tended to panic when I had to let go of money. I was resistant to investing in my business, hiring people and raising my fees. No matter how well I was doing, it always felt dangerous and risky.  I was afraid I wouldn’t have enough money coming in to replenish what was left in my bank account. My childhood money beliefs caused me to stall my business. 

You don’t have to experience dramatic ups and downs in childhood related to money to have negative money beliefs. You could be like my husband who had a financially stable childhood but still acquired negative beliefs because he heard his dad say things like, “Canadian kids are spoiled.” His father was an immigrant who came to Canada as a child, right after the Second World War. He saw his family struggle to make ends meet. At the same time, he saw his “Canadian” neighbours seemingly have it easy.  It was a child’s perception and didn’t necessarily reflect reality but resulted in the feeling of never being financially affluent, regardless of bank balance.

A legacy of beliefs

Beliefs are not necessarily based on reality but on how children perceive and interpret their surroundings. We also believe what authority figures like our mom and dad tell us. However, if you are a parent you know that what we say to our kids is not always correct and well-reasoned. Beliefs around the subject of money most often come from our own learning as children. They are what our parents taught us and their parents before them. I call them “legacy beliefs.” 

I have been teaching money mindset to women entrepreneurs for the last couple of years with a focus on helping them recognize their legacy beliefs. Women often struggle with negative money beliefs but don’t necessarily recognize it because we have been conditioned through childhood and by society to believe that we don’t deserve to receive money. This results in not making confident financial decisions for business growth and literally making less than we should for our knowledge and experience. It’s not a coincidence that women in Canada still make less than men. According to the Canadian Income Survey Statics Canada, women earned 75 cents to the dollar in 2016.

The cost of a negative money mindset is not theoretical, it is real. We need to create awareness of the conditioning we received – conditioning that created enduring beliefs. If we start to shift toward a more empowered money mindset we will make confident decisions to grow our businesses. A larger number of financially successful businesses means we will have more influence on all aspects of society. Goodness knows women will make the world a better place.