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Get back in command of your life!

April 3, 2020

As promised, I want to give you some ways in which you can start to find your calm and feel like you are in command. We all have different cubicles, if you will, in our brain. A whole bunch of subconscious activity that somehow comes together in a brilliant symphony that gets you through life. 

Think about it: There’s the part that when you get in the car – I’ll call it your ‘driving part’. You don’t really have to think when you’re driving somewhere, you just turn the car on, point yourself in the right direction (especially if it’s a long road trip), listen to the radio, sing along, use your wipers when you need to, and then BOOM, you’re suddenly at your destination. 

Then there’s the ‘mom part’. I have a mom part. When I’m in mom-mode, wearing my mom-hat, I tend to talk to my children in a certain way that I might not talk to my friends. So, we have all these different subconscious ‘parts’. 

I’m sure many of you have a ‘work part’ as well. You’re going about your morning, dropping into the coffee shop, ordering, going through those swinging doors, up the escalator, things that have become just so ingrained in you over the years that they almost become robotic. Until now.

The Fear Parts

And right now what many of you are going to be experiencing are ‘fear parts’, parts that were developed in your childhood that were initially created to protect you! Keep you safe from the monster under your bed, or the strange sounds your house made as it settled at night, anything really that protected you from “perceived danger.” And that fear in many ways – the part of your mind that is responsible for that fear – survived and it’s still a little kid and it hasn’t grown up. So what we want to do is we want to grow this fear part of you ALL THE WAY up.

One way you can do this is to create your most conscious mind. 

The mind that’s going to be leading you during that crisis. A mind that is knowing, a mind that’s calm, a mind that has experience. In order to do that, what I want you to understand is the part that’s coming up with all that fear and anxiety – it is actually not telling you the truth. 

It’s not based on fact. 

It’s not based on reality. 

What it’s based on is what you believe. 

And the good news is, you can change what you believe!

Here are some steps to help you to broaden and strengthen your conscious mind:

Strengthen Your Conscious Mind

Over the years working with my clients I’ve realized that you can spot when your ‘fear parts’ are overtaking your conscious mind when you recognize how old you feel. 

And that’s how my clients have always determined that they know that they are in those fear parts of their mind because they are not thinking rationally. 

They don’t feel their chronological age. 

They don’t feel strong. 

They don’t feel like the experienced, successful people they actually are – because they’re living in childhood fear-mode.

We don’t want these ‘fear parts’ to be in charge.

So, first what you’re going to do is this:

  1. Think back to a time of crisis in your life. Something you had to deal with that was particularly traumatic or difficult. 
  2. And I want you to write down what you learned from that and what the positive traits or beliefs that were created as a result of that. 
  3. I want you to really dig down deep and 
    1. find what lessons, 
    2. what beliefs,
    3. what feelings you acquired, on a positive level, that you learned from dealing with – and coming out the other side of – that trauma. 

The healthy beliefs that you have currently – that you’ve spent years developing because of your life experience, business, personal and otherwise, IS WHAT YOU TRULY ARE.

All of the strength that you’ve acquired over the years. All of the ability to pivot and to adapt and to learn is what’s going to help you weather the storm. Everybody has innate talents and innate strengths that they are born with, what I would call God-given. 

And these are going to be the things that you use in order to create the calm.

Then, I want you to imagine your best self.

  1. What you want to be, 
  2. Who you really are – what you envision that you can be. 
  3. I want you to imagine that you are a leader that can deal with anything, and that you are, in fact, in command of that rocking, stormy ship.
  4. What are those feelings and what are those beliefs and what are those traits? Write them down too!

And I want you to connect with those. And in the next while, my advice would be for you to go back and look at those two columns. Everything you learned from the crisis, all the knowledge, all the wisdom, all the life lessons, all the ingenuity. 

And then read column two, which I want you to imagine that you, during this time crisis, during this crisis period, are going to be your best self. Who is your best self? What does that look like? How does that best “self” feel? What actions do they take? How do they feel in their skin? 

The most important thing that anybody has ever done in a crisis is to adapt and learn. 

And we’ve survived this long as a human species because we have the ability to adapt, to learn, to survive, to be optimistic, to believe that we can do anything. And I one thousand percent believe these same traits – evolutionary traits, really – are going to get us through these next months.  

Reach out to me at any time, via MeganO’Neill.ca if you need some reassurance. We are all in this together. 

And I’ve found some time each day in which to help people who need an ear with mindset speciality.

Stay safe.

Megan

Filed Under: beliefs, blocks, communication, mindset

How to Conquer Biz Burnout and Get Your Creativity Back

August 15, 2018

Conquer biz burnoutIn the last little while, I have felt burnt out. I believe this is a result of a busy spring and me doing a lot of new things and being a lot more creative in my business. After being so busy, I hit a wall in July.

I wanted to discuss the feeling of hitting a wall. It comes in all forms. It can be the feeling of being burnt out, not having a lot to give, and maybe even feeling like you’re not in the right line of work.

This is especially true for entrepreneurs who may be wondering if it is all worth it. If maybe working a 9-5 and being able to leave it all at the door when they come home is better than running their own business. This question is always there for entrepreneurs and it’s not wrong to explore that.

When I hit walls or feel powerless, I know that it means I need to do a little more digging and exploration within me. I hit a wall after the spring when I offered my own e-course, a workshop as well as my one-on-one work. I knew I had hit it because I love to communicate and I am an extrovert, yet I found myself not wanting to connect and be out there on social media via video, etc.

I needed to find out what was going on with me.

I was caught up with my beliefs around work. Our beliefs are fairly universal: we need to work to make money and be successful, etc. This is generally inherited from our ancestors, who literally needed to work all the time. Working in the fields, doing laundry by hand, etc. We still run a lot of these beliefs – to the point that it can burn us out. In addition, we are constantly on our screens – constantly connected.

I felt I was only successful if I was working like a dog. This comes from my parents and my husband. Thankfully, I also had a lot of influences letting me know that is okay to take some time off. To take time to do things that bring me pleasure. By doing this, I opened myself up to creating space for other ideas and moments.

Entrepreneurs, especially those who are parents, don’t often take time off for themselves. We don’t allow ourselves time to sit and be quiet. So, upon discovering my own wall and how to move past it, I now invite you to take some time to just be quiet. To let the voices come in that will tell you what you need to do next. The ideas that will take your business to the next level. These voices will only come in if you take the time to be quiet and create the space to allow these voices to come in.

If you allow this space and silence, you will get the inspiration you need to figure out what you have to offer this world, how you can be the most productive, and be in your zone of genius. This is what came to me this summer when I took the time to be quiet.

If you have been working the summer away – stop. Take some time out. Take the time needed to figure out what the best move for you is. Whether it is an hour a day to take a walk or months off – take the time to you need to reconnect with yourself.

If you need some extra help figuring out how to reconnect with yourself, let’s chat about your situation and figure out if I can help.

Filed Under: beliefs, comfort zone, communication, emotions, For Entrepreneurs, mindset Tagged With: beliefs, burnout, business beliefs, entrepreneur, entrepreneurial mindset

Luminosity Podcast Guest: How beliefs and mindset affect your business and your life

July 3, 2018

I recently spoke with Maria Conde on her Luminosity Podcast about how beliefs and mindset can affect your business and your life. Maria Conde is the founder of Flourish and Freedom, a company dedicated to empowering women who want more in life.  She helps people to regain their physical health and financial health so they can bring their gifts to this world and live a life of Grace & Ease. I encourage you to have a listen and let me know what part of my discussion with Maria resonates with you.

To listen to the Luminosity Podcast #8 with Megan O’Neill visit: http://mariaconde.com/luminosity-podcast-8-with-megan-oneill 

 

Luminosity Podcast with Megan O'Neill

Filed Under: beliefs, comfort zone, communication Tagged With: beliefs, mindset blocks, podcast guest

Three Ways Feminine Energy Will Grow Your Business

June 11, 2018

Three ways feminine energy will grow your businessThe exploration of feminine energy is a topic that has come up a lot. Men and women can bring in feminine energy to help grow their business, so it is not about being ‘anti-male’ energy. We are a balance of 50/50 male and female energy, but today, I am talking about three ways of embracing your feminine energy so you can grow your business. This applies to both female AND male business owners.

What is Masculine Energy?

Are you living in your masculine energy too much? Most time is spent in masculine energy. Spending time in male energy is more often than not seen as more important than female energy by society. Male energy can be defined as burning the midnight oil to the point of burn out.  It has to do with being too goal-oriented, working to the point of exhaustion, being competitive, setting hard goals for ourselves, etc. This could also include feeling as though we have to “suck it up” when experiencing an injury or hurt or spending too much time focusing on the competition.

What is Feminine Energy?

Feminine energy is collaboration, creativity, inclusiveness, listening to ourselves and our bodies, taking time out for ourselves, nurturing, etc. Basically, anything we associate as feminine. Being in touch with your feminine energy can grow your business.

Three ways to pay attention to your female energy

  • Listening – Listen to your clients and understand what they struggle with and how you can help them. Listening to this and being able to communicate how you can solve their problems will make them want to work with you and keep you in their lives.
  • Collaboration – whether you are building a business or looking to grow your business, you need to connect with communities and tribes that can support your initiative. Collaborate with other like-minded business people who can support and spread the word about you and your business. This could lead to business partnerships and referrals. It could also mean having a fellow business owner you can rely on for an open ear over coffee to discuss entrepreneurship. Collaboration is all about surrounding yourself with those who understand you.
  • Intuition – Use your intuition (what you feel) to guide your business. Instead of listening to your male energy that tells you something is logical and therefore you should do it, listen to your intuition. What do your feelings tell you? This is what Oprah Winfrey did in her career. While everyone was telling her to do one thing, she listened to and followed her intuition. She was told her magazine would not make any money and that her television network would not succeed, but she proved them wrong and followed her intuition, which proved prosperous!

Remember, the feminine energy can be applied to both men and women – we are a balance of 50/50 male and female energy. Being in touch with your feminine energy is being in touch with your feelings and with those around you in a way that will help you grow your business.

For more information on how to get in touch with your feminine energy book a free clarity call or join my free Facebook Community. It’s filled with other like-minded business owners who are looking to grow their businesses through a healthy mindset.

Filed Under: beliefs, communication, emotions, For Entrepreneurs, mindset, relationships, self-care Tagged With: entrepreneurial mindset, female entrepreneurs, mindset

Will I lose clients over my appearance: Blocking Beliefs Around Appearance.

July 26, 2017

Blocking beliefs around appearanceIs your appearance blocking your business? Do you fear you will lose clients over your appearance? I often hear people talk about their weight, smile, etc. as a reason they avoid the camera, whether that be Facebook Live, recorded video, or photos. People’s beliefs around appearance often hold them back from achieving both personal and professional goals.

What are you afraid of?

I myself have wrestled with feelings of insecurity when it comes to my appearance. Recently, I was supposed to go to my colourist about my grey hair, but she got sick. I made the appointment because I wanted to discuss incorporating my grey hair into my current colour, but when the appointment was cancelled an alarm went off. I am afraid of my hair going grey because: I am afraid people will reject me if my hair is grey. I am afraid they will think I am old.

From a personal perspective, I have a 13- and a 10-year old and I did not want to be perceived as an old mom, but truth be told, chronologically and biologically speaking, some may consider me an old mom. I had my last child at the age of 38, which is old to some people.

Professionally speaking, I started to imagine and fear that people would not want to work with me if I had grey hair because they would think I am too old. Interestingly enough, I recently had a client who was also afraid she looked too old to take her business to the next level.

When it comes to your appearance, what fears and beliefs do you have around appearance? Do you have a block around doing videos or photos? Why is that? What excuses are you using?

How to get past your appearance

Think about what is holding you back from putting yourself out there. Then look around for someone you admire who has some of the things you are struggling with. Perhaps they have grey hair or are overweight. If you’re an aging entrepreneur worried about people thinking you are old then think about someone like Martha Stewart, who didn’t start building her empire until she was in her forties.

When it comes to weight, look for someone such as Denise Duffield-Thomas, who talks openly about her weight. It’s a nonissue for her, so she makes a great mindset role model, especially if you are self-conscious about your weight.

Think about your role models and what their beliefs are around their appearance.

In the end, people will want to work with you based on what you have inside: skills, knowledge, experience, etc. This is why people are hiring you and want to work with you. If you are letting something as simple as the colour of your hair stop you from putting yourself out there and getting those long-overdue professional photos, then now is the time to de-clutter some of those old beliefs and work to accept your appearance.

If you struggle with beliefs around appearance, book a free call and let’s chat about how we can work together to break through those beliefs that are blocking you. I also encourage you to join my Core Beliefs for Business Facebook Group. It’s a group filled with encouraging entrepreneurs always looking to support and help one another.

Filed Under: beliefs, communication, Core Belief Engineering, For Entrepreneurs, self-care Tagged With: appearance blocks, entrepreneur, entrepreneurial mindset, insecurities, mindset

Is your spouse hesitant to work on your relationship?

January 5, 2016

Are you looking to work on your relationship with your spouse or significant other, but your partner is not receptive to the idea? Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon for a spouse or significant other to disagree about needing help with a relationship.

Often the spouse who is resistant to see someone would rather read books or work on the relationships themselves. Instead of getting upset, which doesn’t help matters, ask them what they think will happen if they do talk to someone. Ask them what they are afraid of. Suggest that they write down the pros and cons of speaking to someone about the relationship, including what their priorities are for the relationship itself.

Writing a pros and cons list is a great place to start for both you and your spouse. If a spouse is still resistant then you need to contact someone yourself and talk to someone. Even if you think the problem lies with your spouse, you still need to talk to someone. Talking to a professional will help you determine your role in the breakdown of your relationship and determine any blind spots that may be affecting your relationship.


If there is something within you that is contributing to the breakdown of a relationship or allowing a bad relationship to continue then you need to talk to someone or the situation will only get worse. You cannot sweep relationship problems under a rug – they will only get bigger and the problems get worse.

Does this situation sound familiar to you? If you are ready to talk with someone, book a free 20-minute consultation with me or sign up for my newsletter for more valuable resources that may be helpful to you.

Filed Under: communication, relationships Tagged With: relationships, resistant spouses, therapy

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