Cell phones are how many couples communicate. I often have clients tell me what their spouse said about something by reading it from a text message on their phone and then telling me how they reacted. This frustrates me. Communicating via text is a major block in working through problems in a relationship.
Remember when you would simply speak to someone over the telephone or by talking to him or her in person? A lot of people feel they can communicate better via the written (or typed) word. They feel they can articulate themselves better, but human beings have many senses including sight, which allows you to see a person’s body language, and hearing, which allows you to hear a person’s tone.
I encourage you to always work through problems by talking in person. In addition to this, pick a time that is advantageous to both people. Make sure you won’t be interrupted and meet in a mutual territory.
Lastly, speak with intention. Ask yourself what your intention is by having this conversation – resolution, understanding? Be clear with your intent.
If you have a block in your in-person communication, including the fear of confrontation, which is a common one, ask yourself what is blocking you and why?
Watch the video and then ask yourself how you can better your communication in your relationship. Then head over to my Facebook page or tweet me and share them with me or if you need more help in uncovering how your beliefs and fears may be harming your relationship, sign up for my email series.
