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Is calm possible in a crisis?

March 30, 2020

Soooo….how about that Covid-19, eh? I don’t know about YOU, but this has got to be the strangest global-emergency-type event that I’ve ever lived through. 

And it’s not only strange – let’s face it – it’s scary too. Entire countries are shutting down, provinces and states are scrambling to find the “right” level of new-normal, with shut-downs and shelter-in-place restrictions. 

For heaven’s sake, just getting into the liquor or grocery store is as stressful as crossing the border into another country! (Hey, we have to kid about these outrageous but much needed security steps being implemented – but I can assure you – you don’t need your passport – yet!). 

Of course, everyone’s asking people how they’re doing? How they’re coping? The kids are home, possibly spouse and/or partner as well, or if the kids are grown maybe there’s elderly parents to worry about. Or maybe you are at home and you’ve never had to work from home before.

It almost feels impossible to have any brain-space left to think about your proactive business or corporate responsibility, right? Add those worries to all the rest – how are my employees, will my clients pay ME so I can pay my freelancers? How will I meet the company’s business development targets? It’s the end of the month and all the bills are coming due  – regardless of whether you work for yourself or someone else right now. 

I just want you to know – really know – that you’re not alone in all of this. And that there are people out there who can and WILL raise you up, and help you, if you need it. 

Like the government.  Keep abreast of what aid is being put in place for you.

And your friends and family. Social distancing notwithstanding, find ways to connect with people.

Many people are finding time in their overwhelmed lives to provide value and crisis advisory for free. 

From financial professionals, to lawyers, to marketers to coaches.

And I’d like to help too.

As a mindset specialist, relationship counsellor and  core beleif engineer for over 2 decades, I want to provide some actionable advice.

Let’s talk about how to deal with some of this stress and pressure. 

Because there WILL be a new normal. And we will still all be running our businesses and caring for our loved ones when this is done. But as the old “airplane analogy” makes it oh so clear, if cliched – if YOU don’t put your oxygen mask on first – everything else around you won’t have a chance in H* E* Double* Hockey Sticks*! 

Here’s the first thing I want you to tell yourself when you wake up every morning – and before you go to sleep (I hope!) every night. 

YOU CAN CONTROL HOW YOU FEEL

Or as I prefer to tell it, you can be in COMMAND of your feelings.

A lot of what is fuelling this feeling of crisis is the fear of the unknown and feeling like you are out of control. 

And I’m not going to tell you that what you’re feeling is not real. Of course, it’s real! We’re in the middle of a global pandemic!! BUT, while you can’t control the external chaos, you can learn to control how you REACT to it!

I want you to start by finding your calm within you. I want you to essentially step into a position of leadership to yourself. 

And what I mean by that is that right now many of you feel like you’re on a boat on a raging ocean, and the boat’s rocking and the waves are crashing, and you don’t feel like you have a lot of control and you might fall into the boat. So, you start to hold on for dear life. And what happens when we start to white knuckle any part of our lives? They don’t call it “white knuckling” for nothing! You get VERY tense. Your muscles seize up, and blood flow is restricted. But no matter how tense you get – or how tightly you hang on – you just can’t stop that boat from rocking. 

STOP WHITE KNUCKLING!

If you were to stop white knuckling it, relax your body, let go of the bed – wait – BED??? Didn’t I tell you that you were in a bed on this boat in the raging storm? No? Well, if your sleeping patterns have been anything like mine lately – trust me – the metaphor is apt, if odd. 

Anyhow, you let go of the bed, and you slowly breathe and try to adjust yourself along with the rhythm of the boat. Once you relax yourself and just “go with the flow” there’s a good chance you’ll weather the storm better. 

Start there.

Next week, I’ll have some more tips on how to manage your mind.

Tell then if you need to talk, reach out to me at any time, via MeganO’Neill.ca if you need some reassurance. We are all in this together. And I’ve found some time each day in which to help people who need an ear with mindset speciality.

Stay safe.

Megan

Filed Under: For Entrepreneurs, self-care

Three Ways Feminine Energy Will Grow Your Business

June 11, 2018

Three ways feminine energy will grow your businessThe exploration of feminine energy is a topic that has come up a lot. Men and women can bring in feminine energy to help grow their business, so it is not about being ‘anti-male’ energy. We are a balance of 50/50 male and female energy, but today, I am talking about three ways of embracing your feminine energy so you can grow your business. This applies to both female AND male business owners.

What is Masculine Energy?

Are you living in your masculine energy too much? Most time is spent in masculine energy. Spending time in male energy is more often than not seen as more important than female energy by society. Male energy can be defined as burning the midnight oil to the point of burn out.  It has to do with being too goal-oriented, working to the point of exhaustion, being competitive, setting hard goals for ourselves, etc. This could also include feeling as though we have to “suck it up” when experiencing an injury or hurt or spending too much time focusing on the competition.

What is Feminine Energy?

Feminine energy is collaboration, creativity, inclusiveness, listening to ourselves and our bodies, taking time out for ourselves, nurturing, etc. Basically, anything we associate as feminine. Being in touch with your feminine energy can grow your business.

Three ways to pay attention to your female energy

  • Listening – Listen to your clients and understand what they struggle with and how you can help them. Listening to this and being able to communicate how you can solve their problems will make them want to work with you and keep you in their lives.
  • Collaboration – whether you are building a business or looking to grow your business, you need to connect with communities and tribes that can support your initiative. Collaborate with other like-minded business people who can support and spread the word about you and your business. This could lead to business partnerships and referrals. It could also mean having a fellow business owner you can rely on for an open ear over coffee to discuss entrepreneurship. Collaboration is all about surrounding yourself with those who understand you.
  • Intuition – Use your intuition (what you feel) to guide your business. Instead of listening to your male energy that tells you something is logical and therefore you should do it, listen to your intuition. What do your feelings tell you? This is what Oprah Winfrey did in her career. While everyone was telling her to do one thing, she listened to and followed her intuition. She was told her magazine would not make any money and that her television network would not succeed, but she proved them wrong and followed her intuition, which proved prosperous!

Remember, the feminine energy can be applied to both men and women – we are a balance of 50/50 male and female energy. Being in touch with your feminine energy is being in touch with your feelings and with those around you in a way that will help you grow your business.

For more information on how to get in touch with your feminine energy book a free clarity call or join my free Facebook Community. It’s filled with other like-minded business owners who are looking to grow their businesses through a healthy mindset.

Filed Under: beliefs, communication, emotions, For Entrepreneurs, mindset, relationships, self-care Tagged With: entrepreneurial mindset, female entrepreneurs, mindset

Will I lose clients over my appearance: Blocking Beliefs Around Appearance.

July 26, 2017

Blocking beliefs around appearanceIs your appearance blocking your business? Do you fear you will lose clients over your appearance? I often hear people talk about their weight, smile, etc. as a reason they avoid the camera, whether that be Facebook Live, recorded video, or photos. People’s beliefs around appearance often hold them back from achieving both personal and professional goals.

What are you afraid of?

I myself have wrestled with feelings of insecurity when it comes to my appearance. Recently, I was supposed to go to my colourist about my grey hair, but she got sick. I made the appointment because I wanted to discuss incorporating my grey hair into my current colour, but when the appointment was cancelled an alarm went off. I am afraid of my hair going grey because: I am afraid people will reject me if my hair is grey. I am afraid they will think I am old.

From a personal perspective, I have a 13- and a 10-year old and I did not want to be perceived as an old mom, but truth be told, chronologically and biologically speaking, some may consider me an old mom. I had my last child at the age of 38, which is old to some people.

Professionally speaking, I started to imagine and fear that people would not want to work with me if I had grey hair because they would think I am too old. Interestingly enough, I recently had a client who was also afraid she looked too old to take her business to the next level.

When it comes to your appearance, what fears and beliefs do you have around appearance? Do you have a block around doing videos or photos? Why is that? What excuses are you using?

How to get past your appearance

Think about what is holding you back from putting yourself out there. Then look around for someone you admire who has some of the things you are struggling with. Perhaps they have grey hair or are overweight. If you’re an aging entrepreneur worried about people thinking you are old then think about someone like Martha Stewart, who didn’t start building her empire until she was in her forties.

When it comes to weight, look for someone such as Denise Duffield-Thomas, who talks openly about her weight. It’s a nonissue for her, so she makes a great mindset role model, especially if you are self-conscious about your weight.

Think about your role models and what their beliefs are around their appearance.

In the end, people will want to work with you based on what you have inside: skills, knowledge, experience, etc. This is why people are hiring you and want to work with you. If you are letting something as simple as the colour of your hair stop you from putting yourself out there and getting those long-overdue professional photos, then now is the time to de-clutter some of those old beliefs and work to accept your appearance.

If you struggle with beliefs around appearance, book a free call and let’s chat about how we can work together to break through those beliefs that are blocking you. I also encourage you to join my Core Beliefs for Business Facebook Group. It’s a group filled with encouraging entrepreneurs always looking to support and help one another.

Filed Under: beliefs, communication, Core Belief Engineering, For Entrepreneurs, self-care Tagged With: appearance blocks, entrepreneur, entrepreneurial mindset, insecurities, mindset

Things I learned during the stressful times of being an entrepreneur

November 28, 2016

My week didn’t start off as I hoped. Tommy my youngest child, cried that morning that his stomach hurt and he didn’t want to go school. At first, I was little skeptical because it’s not uncommon for him to feign illness before school in hopes that I will let him stay home and he can play video games. I usually don’t, but that day I relented because he looked pale. To complicate matters further, I had a client appointment booked that morning where I couldn’t get ahold of the client and my husband couldn’t take time off work, so I ended up bringing my son with me to the office, and he promptly threw up on the way in the car. My son and his illness sidetracked everything I had planned for this day and this caused me a high level of frustration and guilt. Mom guilt is truly the worst.

That day prompted me to record this video and talk about the other side of being an entrepreneur. As much as I am a cheerleader for entrepreneurs and being in charge of your career, your freedom, your money, etc. there is another side to entrepreneurship – particularly if you are a parent or a caretaker.

This was a big theme for me this past year. My mom’s cancer reoccurred after thirty years and as her primary caretaker I took care of her until she passed away. Losing a parent, my mom, was devastating on a personal level but it was also hard as a business owner. I was conflicted all the time because I was trying to keep up everything with my business but couldn’t. I had to turn away clients. I had to reschedule things. My mom was my priority and I had to try and keep things as normal as I could my kids and husband.

Needless to say, this has been a difficult year, perhaps the most of ever had, but it also taught me a few things.

1) You need a safety net

You need to have a financial safety net that will carry you for a couple of months in case something happens. Having this cushion will ease the stress a bit while you are preoccupied, ill or unable to work.

2) Look at your beliefs

I was trying to keep up pace as a mother and as a daughter and I quickly realized that was not possible. Part of this was guilt – as a mom and as a daughter. I had to sit down and examine what this guilt was about. Guilt is a manmade thing – we are not born with guilt.

As a mom I had to examine my expectations and realize that I am not the same mom that my mom was in the 1970s. My mom stayed home and I found myself responding as my mom would in the old days. I had to realize this and allow myself to respond differently.

The same applied to my expectations as a daughter. My mom needed me a lot, but I had a lot of guilt around my mom and what I believed I should be doing as her daughter – and that caused me a lot of stress.

3) Find support

Find yourself a good support group of entrepreneurial friends. They will understand. They will give you the emotional support you need, whether virtually or in- person.

4) Examine your beliefs around what you’re trying to accomplish

Have you scheduled too much? If you have too much on your plate, personally and professionally, you will burn yourself out. Take a look at what you are trying to accomplish and if there are things that can be taken away that will help you – let it go!

How do you cope with being an entrepreneur and a caretaker? What solutions have helped you? Comment below or on my Facebook page or Twitter. I would love to learn from you!

Filed Under: beliefs, emotions, For Entrepreneurs, self-care

Are you really taking care of yourself?

November 18, 2015

It’s easy to get lost in the activity of life. As life gets busy either personally or professionally, it’s easy to get disconnected with yourself, your spirit and your body. This can be exhausting, hard and is not healthy. It is important to take time for yourself and this week I did just that – I challenged myself to do three things to nurture myself.

This meant purchasing a luxurious towel that I wouldn’t normally purchase to replace my old raggedy towels. It also meant taking a mid-day bubble bath after a busy morning with clients (a time when I knew I would really be able to enjoy it) and thirdly, it meant enrolling in a yoga class that I have meaning to take for months. I am very much looking forward to this class!

My challenge for you is to do the same: do three things for yourself this week.
So, what three things are you going to do? Take time to take care of yourself then let me know what you did to nurture yourself either on my Facebook page, Twitter or via email. I look forward to hearing them!

Filed Under: emotions, self-care Tagged With: self-care, taking care of yourself

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